Without knowing you, I might disagree.
Many people who say they fear failure are actually afraid of success – a hidden form of achievement anxiety. It’s not the fear itself that holds them back, but the consequences of what happens once they reach their goals.
This deep-rooted fear often leads to self-sabotaging behaviors: procrastination, lack of focus, or avoiding important tasks.
Why does it happen? Doesn’t everybody desire to be successful and wealthy?
One of the most common drivers is a sense of unworthiness.
The unconscious feeling of not deserving a better job or being in a happy relationship is repelling opportunities, creating self doubts and paralyzing any initiative.
· ‘I don’t deserve being promoted; no one in my family has ever been successful.’
· ‘Who am I to do better than my parents?’
The same dynamic shows up in other ways:
· Having a higher academic degree than your family is causing you to feel like an outsider.
· Staying small so that your friends – who live comfortably but without extras – don’t envy or resent you.
· Feeling guilty for having more, or simply resisting change, so you cling to your comfort zone and miss new opportunities.
At the core, this is about our need to belong.
The feeling of belonging is a fundamental human need, essential for healthy development, connection and security. Feeling accepted and included into a certain community creates authenticity and motivation.
So ask yourself: Do you truly fear failure, or do one of these deeper fears resonate more strongly. blocking your success?
Here’s one simple way to calm the stress signal: close your eyes, take three deep breaths in and out while focussing on your desired goal and its possible consequences.
Gently tap your palm across your collarbones (the spot where a man’s tie would sit). This helps your body shift into a parasympathetic state of calm, creating space for clarity
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